A thought on marriage

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A thought on marriage
Fri, 05-18-2012 - 12:39pm

Recently, a friend on Facebook posted that "marriage is the hardest thing you'll ever do but so worth it".

I couldn't put my response on Facebook because I know it wouldn't be well received. :smileywink:

My thought on that statement: if marriage is the hardest thing you've ever done, you're doing it wrong. LOL

Seriously, there are certainly challenges in any marriage but if you pick your partner carefully and are sure that you share the same values, goals and dreams, marriage should be enjoyable and *easy*.

If being married is a constant challenge than you either A) partnered with someone who isn't right for you or B) are making it difficult for yourself for whatever reason.

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Re: A thought on marriage
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 11:35am

My take on marriage is this: Finding a suitable woman willing to put on a wedding dress for me was difficult for me. I only married for the first and only time at age 44. However, now that I'm married for 5 years, I have found that our relationship requires moderate effort.

I think the fact that we don't have children and married late simplifies things for us. Marrying one's college sweetheart at age 24 and having three screaming kids together is a lot, lot, lot more challenging. Raising children together requires intense effort and clever juggling of needs and obligations. Also, those who marry young often make foolish mistakes with each other--inadvertently causing offense and anger--that older people wouldn't make.