Traumatic Miscommunication

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Traumatic Miscommunication
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Thu, 04-21-2011 - 1:18am

Hello,

I am not married, but I am guessing you girls know how to manage this kind of issue better than I do. I've been divorced for 16 years, so I have no memories of dealing with this kind of thing. The man in question - we'll call him "Dave" - and I have known one another about a month.

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 5:29pm

You need to get down from you high horses, sorry you do, if any one said

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 6:33pm

Good thing you don't work where I do. We all swear like sailors and there's not a single man among us! Women can talk trash just as much as men do, if not more so.

I think that you just need to meet with him on a business level. Don't call him, don't hang out with him, don't see him outside working together. See him as the brilliant man you take him for, do business with him and let it be that: a business partnership. You can't change him and he can't change you. Women marry men and then spend the rest of their married lives trying to change the man. It doesn't work that way. With men, what you see is what you get. He will only come to resent your meddling in trying to change him and then you'll be out of a business partner. Chalk up the sex as something that was fun but is over now and move on.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 8:26pm

Hi & welcome to the board :)

Sounds like you need to keep this relationship strictly on the business level at this point.
While you can suggest he not speak to you that way .. the rest is up to him.
Keep it all business so you won't have to deal with him much.
Hopefully others will share their thoughts as well.
So do check back :)




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Registered: 03-23-2000
Sat, 04-23-2011 - 8:31am

I agree with the others that you need to deal with this man on a strictly professional level.

Do your best to put your personal past behind you and focus on his positive attributes as a businessman.

RoseAnn

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 04-23-2011 - 2:30pm

Thank you everyone!

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Registered: 03-23-2000
Sat, 04-23-2011 - 6:24pm

I'm sorry that things ended but it sounds like it was a healthy move, given his past behavior.

Hopefully you can find someone more compatible for your business and personal endeavors (preferably two *different* someones!). ;)

RoseAnn

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sat, 04-23-2011 - 7:23pm

Sounds like you made a good decision :)




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Registered: 01-07-2008
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 10:48am

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