What Does a Healthy and Happy Marriage Look Like?
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What Does a Healthy and Happy Marriage Look Like?
| Mon, 06-27-2011 - 9:42am |
I realize that all couples are different and what works for one couple may not work for another. I also realize that there are ups in downs in a marriage. But I am wondering what is it that makes a marriage succeed? What does a happy and healthy marriage look like? What are the qualities in a marriage that one should strive towards? When things get tough how do you work things out? What are your beliefs about marriage?
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Hi & welcome to the board :)
You're right when you say what works well for one couple may not work for another
I have been married almost 32 years this summer.
I think two huge factors are compromise & communication ..
The easiest way to have a
I believe a marriage succeeds when the partners both know the true authentic person and love/respect that person. People use the word love w/o it's true meaning - it means to value, to cherish, to care about your partner. I've had men "love" me who didn't do those things so clearly they didn't know how to love.
When things get tough, my husband & I will talk things out. If the "tough" is something situational, then we will plan - a strategy to deal with the situation or a way to avoid it in the future. If you mean tough between the two of us - I'm not really sure. We get mad at each other but we get over it very quickly (never more than minutes). Whoever did something to bother the other will usually apologize bc neither of us wants to make the other unhappy. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Our beliefs about marriage are that we planning a life together. We are sharing ourselves in a special way and we will work to keep it and nurture it.
You touched on something that I think the rest of us omitted: it's important for both members of a healthy relationship to have a healthy and accurate view of themselves and be willing to share themselves completely with someone else. It's true what "they" say that you can't love someone else until you've learned to love yourself!
RoseAnn
People have allready said was is healthy marriage
We all have issues. My DH and I both need to see the other person working on their issues or we risk losing respect for them. We don't need to triumph - just try. Otherwise, we feel the person is copping out. However, I understand others feel differently about this and respect their right to live their life their way. But...I don't have to be their partner either ;-)
I could have written an essay about this topic (I did delete a lot from my original post)
Deanne
I stopped wearing a mask years ago,
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