The Wow Factor

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The Wow Factor
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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 11:14am

I'm a guy, and am very interested in the views of married women regarding "chemistry" and dating leading to a long term relationship or marriage. There are regular discussions on the single boards from women above 30 looking for the all elusive chemistry or wow factor. The one thing in common with most of these women, though, is that they

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 2:34pm

What a great question! haha

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:00pm

Hi jt,
Welcome to the board :)

Hmmm .. a bit ago for me to remember ::blush::
I just know when I saw my now Dh then ..
He was the one I wanted forever .. it was like something clicked
Hard to explain but I just knew he was the one for me :)




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Registered: 09-11-2011
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:23am
I'm not quite sure what "The Wow Factor" is exactly...but my husband and I met on a blind date. That first night, something just clicked. I knew he was special. He proposed two months later, and we've been together ever since! We both just knew we were supposed to be together.
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 9:22am
Welcome to the board landk :)

How long have you & DH been married?
Hope we see you here again :)




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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 10:26am

While I don't think I ever had that 'wow' moment with DH, I do recall being comfortable with him right off and as others on the board mentioned I kind of just knew 'this is the one'. However, it wasn't that I looked at him across the room and I knew, but rather after spending the afternoon together and seeing how compatible

Amanda
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 10:38am

I think the "wow factor" you describe as in instant chemistry at first sight, is overrated. I agree with the poster who said that it's not a good idea to rely on TV or movies for a realistic view of how relationships develop or end up. LOL

When I first met DH, I was wasting my time chasing another guy who was totally uninterested. I initially declared that DH was "not my type" but fortunately he was persistent and as I got to know him better, I realized that we got along well, had a lot of the same values and really enjoyed each other's company. IMO, those are much more important factors than any instant attraction, which could easily fade.

RoseAnn

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 1:20pm

I met DH online and we chatted online, on the phone and sent e-mail for a year before we met IRL. I fully understand the wow factor and I felt that for him online before I met him in person. I knew during that year we knew each other online that we had a chemistry that went beyond the initial physical/sexual connection that you have in the beginning with someone.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 4:08pm

I met my husband while on vacation and as soon as I saw him, I knew there was something there. He feels the same way, We kissed the first night we met and now one year later we are married. It was definitly love at first sight for both of us and even now sometimes when I look at him, I feel the same way I felt first time I saw him. Also, it helps that he is damn good looking haha!

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 5:29pm
Nice to see you here again :)




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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 11:55pm

I have had the wow factor and I am not with those men. A lot of times the r/ship wasn't working in other areas.

When I met DH, I was initially was not physically attracted to him. But we had a mental attraction and luckily we both value that highly. Even after being married 5 years and almost 8 years together, we can still talk a whole night away and have fun doing it.

I did think chemistry was necessary before meeting DH - but then I had a lot of chemistry w/a lot of different men. So I didn't think it was asking a lot, LOL.

Dee

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