The hard ways and advices

WOW!  Bitter much?  I get that this is a vent, and someone hurt you recently, but these statements go against everything that has actually worked in my marriage!

First off, I've been married to the SAME MAN and have 3 children with the SAME MAN for almost 23 years now.  I do know exactly what I'm talking about is what I am trying to say.

I lived with Sean for a year before he left for Special Forces Training in the Army.  We were married mostly so that I would also have military benefits.  Not romantic, but it was fine since we were planning to be married that year later on anyhow.  He moved in when we only dated for THREE MONTHS too!  Wow.

Now, he is far from an a-hole.  Oh, he can be, but girls, lets face it, every single one of us can be a b*tch too.  No one is ever the perfect partner from heaven, Men or Women.  Sex is something that should be with someone you love deeply, but DO NOT wipe that out of your relationships!  Crap, I know this sounds slutty but I want to drive the car before I buy it!

I was proposed to 3 times prior to saying yes to Sean.  By 3 different men.  One of them I never lived with and if I had lived with him, I would have not wasted 2 years dating the jerk.  See, he is gay AND he has no problems with hitting a woman.  I found out about the hitting women portion here when he punched me from the drivers side of his car while driving, I opened the door and rolled out of the moving car.  That was the end of it for me.  Then I came to find out that he was sleeping with an acting "friend" of mine who was gay!

So, to all other ladies reading, take comfort in knowing that not only can you live with a man in happiness and marry him later where it lasts through all the trials of over 20 years (probably more for us, we are still going strong).  And sex is natural and a part of the way we are made up as human beings.  It brings 2 people closer and it's so nice to have that connection.

I think that this poster will end up so much worse off than she would if she TRIED.  Marriage, relationships and everything that goes with it is HARD!  Whomever thinks that it's a piece of cake has never been in a relationship with staying power.  First off, marry that guy you are not just attracted to, but one you know isn't lazy or annoying as well.  Get to know them best by LIVING WITH THEM FOR A WHILE!

My own hubby is actually great.  He cooks, cleans, helps out and we have a very firm agreement that we work as a team.  So, never marry someone who wants to either run the relationship or someone that wants you to run it, marry the guy that believes in equally sharing the responsibility.

There you have it.  I guessed that the poster in this thread is probably a person just posting negative crap to get a rise out of folks, at least it gets us talking though!