Marriage proposal coming!? 5 year relationship
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|Sat, 01-25-2014 - 3:43pm|
ok my boyfriend and i are together 5 years February and living together 2 years and 3 months. We are living with family right now to save up and we would have been out last year in our own place, but family issues happened and i decided i would help. my boyfriend always said 3 years for any jewlery (he gave me a beautiful necklace 21/2 years in. A month after i moved in) and 5 years to at least get engaged. but he is still on and off about it, it seems like if i say i want something he says opposite But when i don't mention marriage he talks about it. I asked whyyyy does he do this but all he says when i asked him last year "to through you off so your not expecting it, it will happen soon just not this year(2013)".
Ever sense our friends got engaged he has been more open about it and one day before christmas his sister and i were talking about "our" wedding, his sister like "dan said you want a 2000 dollar wedding", Im like "huh yeah, he told you that?" she says "yeah i know nothing though" then my boyfriend comes in room "what you talking about" and told him "apparently you said to your sister i want cheap wedding"...he didn't say anything but stayed and kinda joined in our conversation about our future wedding. I hinted about getting married at 26...we are 25..:my boyfriend says "haha noo way 27...30..maybe 40 even"..im like "30 ..40 seriously?" he just winks at me.
my whole family thought maybe it would happen christmas because way he was bringing it up for awhile and his family but christmas day no ring, i was kinda upset christmas day but came to realize i should not be making it a top priority and just enjoy relationship too, i have been harping on getting married to long..not to my boyfriend just to myself and my family. yes i do hint some times like "if i ever get married i would like this..."... sometimes he responds other times nothing, but i do not beg/cry to him asking when we are going to get married, i don't want to push. Anyways so christmas day came no ring BUT every time someone asked "you get what you want?"...my boyfriend smiles and says "not yet"...which 2-3 years ago he wouldn't say that or would say "yeah i know what she wants but never happening". example: My mom asks "you get everything you wanted" i said yes..boyfriend says "nope not yet";) my mom asks "what that mean?"...he shows his ring finger says "not yet" winks. he also said he will never propose christmas because everyone gets engaged then. So then everyone thought "omg your birthday!"......well nope my birthday was yesterday.
now thats left is valentines day and our 5th anniversary:/ i wonder if its going to be this year or next or never its bugging me but im trying not to let it lol these last two weeks he hasn't said anything about marriage or kids and he has been saving more but i don't if thats for his turbo kit or something else :/ so i hinted around this week see if he says anything..like today i said "if we get married our colours are purple/grey"...boyfriend says "who says we getting married"...I'm like seriously! this again your so confusing do you or don't you eventually want too?...boyfriend says "if you scratch my back we will" ugh i dropped it..ill give him abit after our anniversary if no proposal i might gentley ask him "what happen to 5 year timeline , is it me that made him change his mind?" ect....what you think i should do?