When did you start living together?

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Registered: 01-11-2013
When did you start living together?
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Sun, 02-03-2013 - 10:36pm
My boyfriend and I are not living together. In fact, we haven't even talked about it yet because the relationship is still kind of new. I was just wondering how long you were together before you thought about moving in together?
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Registered: 02-20-2002
Tue, 02-05-2013 - 9:02am

My situation was over a year---closer to year and a half--but EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, depends on the individuals involved, and stage of life is different as well.

I think one thing is you need to be very clear with yourself that you are exclusive and not wanting to be anything but exclusive.  It is much more "complicated" to break up, even for a short time, if living together....so, from my perspective, I dont think it's a great idea unless it's someone you think you'd like to spend the rest of your life with.

Of course, if it's someone you'd like to spend the rest of your life with......then the question becomes, is this someone you'd also like to marry?   If marriage itself is important to you, then I'd hold off from "living together" until the date is set and hall rented, because marriage is an easy thing to put off doing otherwise.

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Registered: 02-11-2013
Mon, 02-11-2013 - 3:05pm

I met my BF towards the end of July '12. Because of our interaction and similar values, there was always a cloud over us, and we were asked by several different individuals (family and friends), would we be living together soon. (Having married/divorced during my deployment to Iraq: I'd NEVER lived with anyone. He had ALWAYS lived with a gf.) We would always respond in the negative: we knew what we meant to each other already. We could wait until the right time for Us. 

Now, that it's nearing Valentine's Day, we are more than sure in our decision to purchase a home, and we will be living together, working towards marriage shortly after. We are both genuinely excited about all the good, bad, and ugly of living with one another. You have got to take a true personal survey of yourself. Why is it so important to even consider living together, and you all haven't discussed it; neither has there been an intent to marry first. If you feel uneasy having an open discussion with your partner about this topic, again, I encourage you to survey your Intentions of simply "living together".

What I can say for myself: I had to locate who is going to support me throughout this process. My Mother isn't going to be as sympathetic in hearing my man problems when I'm shacked up.

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Registered: 09-12-2011
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 3:53pm

waited 6 months

was the breaker in the relationship.

dont rush

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Mon, 03-18-2013 - 1:24pm
We were together for about a year and a half and then moved in together. I'm not sure I would have done it if I had other options but now that we have lived together for over a year, I really look at it in a positive way. Like a previous poster said, it just depends on your individual relationship and if you've discussed all the important issues. Things arise that you do not even consider until you live with someone! Luckily, we had it planned out how household responsibilities would be shared and how the bills would be divided. We both equally contribute and I feel like if we didnt then it would cause some problems. Good luck!
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Registered: 06-05-2013
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 2:14pm

We moved in at 6 months, still together now after 5 years.  

However, before moving in together, I stopped over at his every weekend from when we started seeing eachother until we moved in.    There was one ocassion where I stopped with him for 2 weeks because I had time off from work.  

We are still very happy now. 

More sex please, I'm British!