Love him but feel like a clipped bird
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|Sun, 04-14-2013 - 4:56am|
I am in a LD Marriage. We have been married for a year. This is a short term arrangement and he plans to move where I am next year. However I am dreading the move because when we first dicussed getting married, I knew that one of his sons would come with him. But he didnt' mention he wanted his mother to come until last week. First off I should mention that my husband has multiple sclerosis and is now legally blind. We are already trying to cope with this illness, but one of his sons is autistic. His mother is nearly 600 pounds and he just informed me that she lived with him during his first marriage and he wants her to live with us too. I have already rasied my kids and feel that I will become a nurse. I was ready to deal with my husband's illness but now he wants to bring his mother. When I told him why can't she have her own apartment he said no she can't take care of herself. But I told him they have assisted living apartments where someone can come in and assist her with the things she needs. I find it disturbing that when she has to go to the bathroom it is her autistic grandson who has to take care of her bodily functions. He puts the bedpan under her and collects her you know what. I thought it kind of weird especially when she said she prefers for her grandson to do that rather than her home attendant. I am feeling guilty because I know that as a christian wife I should not just think of myself but I have toiled so long and just when I thought I would get some freedom now I have a lot on my plate to consider. Added to this problem is that due to my husband's illness he is impotent. Neither viagra or cialis helps. The doctor said this was a result of the MS. He continues to gain weight (over 300 pounds) and when I change his foods he eats junk when he is out of my sight. I am ashamed to admit that when he takes off his clothes I am disgusted and turned off. He looks like a piglit.
Appreciate your thoughts, suggestons, comments.