Adjusting to living in his house...

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2011
Adjusting to living in his house...
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Fri, 10-14-2011 - 10:07am

My children and I moved in my fiance's house at the end of August.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 10:17am

Hi;

I was in a blended family .. Me and my son moved into my then husband;s house. We are divorced now but that is not why we got divorced.

Okay;; Me and my ex attended a step parent support group once a week. It really helped clear the misconceptions about blended families. So try and find some support in this.

You can also do some of your own decorating., maybe decorate one or two rooms your way and not invade the whole house..so to speak.

You can also blend the style and tastes of yours and your finances. My ex liked colonial and I liked comtemporary .. We both agreed on mixing the two and the house looked pretty good.

Also, Keep the lines of communication open at all times. Always talk things through no matter what.. Keep involved in everyday life .

One last thing.. Pick your battles . Dont nit pick on things that

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 11:50am

Welcome to the board!

In my case, SO moved into my house that I own.

Serenity
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 3:39pm
I would never move into my gf's house. She has an almost paid for house that is worth a lot. She has put a lot of effort, time, and expense in making it into what she wants. This will never be our house. If we marry, I would only do so if we get something together. I did like the solution from the article she sent me... HOME & GARDEN | October 13, 2011
House Proud: One Couple, Two Houses and the Bridge in Between <http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/13/garden/in-vermont-one-couple-two-houses-and-the-bridge-in-between.html?emc=eta1>
By JOYCE WADLER
Eleanor Lanahan and John Douglas, Vermont artists of a certain age, found a way to live together but have creative spaces of their own by (literally) building a bridge.
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 5:11pm
As always, a great post, M. I read the article and am going to post it in its own thread.

At least you are honest and realistic about what you can, and cannot live with. So many are blinded by love.

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2011
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 11:35am

I moved in with my Fiance a year and half ago, I am still 'adjusting'.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2010
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 1:59pm

Hi there!

I also moved (with my dd) into fiance's house a year & half ago....it was VERY tough (at first). I, too, felt like I was invading 'his space'.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 1:27pm

Am living that right now.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 3:00pm

We didn't have much choice with houses, either.

Serenity