Arrgh!! Is this NORMAL?
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|Fri, 06-11-2004 - 4:47pm|
The issue: He wants to be "friends" with his ex EVENTHOUGH she cheated on him AND she tried to get as much money as possible during the divorce (yes, LOTS more than she's entitled to... and yes, he was appalled at the time that she tried to do that). By "friends", he didn't mean hanging out together, but could include calling/emailing each other socially (which doesn't include me) and helping each other out.
I'm asking y'all if you've known anyone who still wants to be even on friendly terms with a person who betrayed your trust AND tried to manipulate you.
In my tiny brain, this could only mean that he either still loves her (which he denied) or he's a Buddhist monk (which he isn't). Before we got married, I made sure that he knew that I couldn't accept his wish and still be in the relationship. I really wish I could, but I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. I told him to think carefully and make the best decision for himself. If he chose to leave, we'll be friends (yeah, maybe we'll all hang out with his x ..haha), if not, he needs to make sure that he didn't resent me. So he chose to give up his wish. But every now and then, when we had arguments, he'd bring it up and blamed me for not being able to accept his wish. I told him that so I had flaws, why couldn't he accept me for this.
P.S. They don't have kids (thank God!).