Book List?

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Book List?
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 12:18am

This has probably been discussed here many times, but I didn't see a thread with a comprehensive list of books that those who have "been there, done that" would recommend.

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Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: jedgie
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 10:52am

Hi and welcome to the board!

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.

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Registered: 10-04-2006
In reply to: jedgie
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 11:19am

Hi and welcome to the board.

Although I don't have any book recommendations, I do have a really good thought...

You said, "What I am looking for is an objective view of the benefits and pitfalls of remarrying."

Therefore, to get an objective view, I'd suggest reading up on your state/federal laws on divorce, marriage, and children. Only then would you truly get an objective view of the benefits and pitfalls.

i.e. in CA, once you marry, everything gets combined. All your assets becomes your spouses and if you die, things go to the spouse first, not the children. UNLESS you draw up a will (which people can still fight, ditto with a pre-nup, neither are foolproof).

But then, if you don't get married, but live together and if you died, your kids would get everything and could even tell your SO to get the heck out of THEIR home. Could get ugly.

My point being, if you want objective, read up on the laws of how marriage affects a couple/family, divorce, and if you were to die. By reading divorce laws, you'll learn more about what your marriage will entail, versus trying to find info on how a marriage would affect you.

That's my opinion...because anything else you'll read here, or even in a book, will just be an opinion and probably not truly objective. We can tell you our stories and what we've learned, but that doesn't mean you'll follow that. We could tell you the stats on remarriage, but that doesn't mean you'd fit that either. Hence, why I suggest studying the law....only then would a choice be somewhat objective. (I say somewhat, because you'll still have to make a choice yourself, and it'll most likely still be slightly an emotional decision).

Good luck.


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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: jedgie
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 5:04pm

Sorry I can't help with suggestions on any books.