career misstep?? need encouragement

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
career misstep?? need encouragement
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:10pm

hi folks, i'm feeling down about my move to dayside.... down isnt the best word... perhaps second guessing myself describes it better....

here's the thing, i know this is great for the kids, but career-wise, i feel like i demoted myself. does that make sense? I used to manage the nightside. i was the senior designer. I am still a senior designer but i'm not in charge as much... dayside has three senior designers and an art director... so while at night, i was in charge, during the day i feel like one of many.

obviously I can't move back to nights... and for the sake of the kids, they ARE liking my new schedule better. For them, this was a great move.... but like i said, as for my career, i feel like it was a misstep.

perhaps, you all can encourage me that i made the right choice.... or at least, the necessary choice.


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Registered: 07-07-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 2:42pm

Change is hard (at least for me), I think it will take time to get used to...however, I think in time you will "fit in" just fine and who knows maybe move up a bit as never know what someone else's circumstances are and whether they might need to make a change either...In fact, SO's boss just got remarried to a guy in the navy, she is leaving for Guam for the next 3 years, to say the least we were stunned, however, this may open a new opportunity for SO, that he never could've seen coming (in light of his boss's decision)....After all, from everything you are trying to accomplish this change is right for you and your family, so just give it some time!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 3:03pm

You might feel better when you put things into a time perspective. Time really does fly by, and before you know it, your kids will be out on their own. They will take pride in your career, but as they get older they will cherish more that you had time to read to them, take them clothes shopping, and watched their sporting events, etc. When people die or retire from work, how often are they mentioned anymore by co-workers? Not often. But how often are relatives mentioned who have passed by their loved ones? Often in my family. When your kids go to college or move out, maybe you can switch back to your old shift, and then you will have experienced the best of both worlds in your lifetime. Sounds like you work in an interesting field! Good luck.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:16pm

You know sometimes you just have to do things to make sure your family is taken care of.

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Registered: 01-26-2009
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 3:52pm

One Hundred Years from now

Faith is not blind; it's visionary


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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 12:22pm

You are right where you are supposed to be.

We never know why things go the way they do, but there is a reason you are there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2006
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 6:48pm

I think it is TOTALLY normal to have that second-guessing and those little nagging doubts! I switched jobs about a year ago - actually made a MAJOR change in careers ... and at first - in the position I was hired for - I had this deep sinking feeling, like - Oh man, what have I done ...

And it didn't go away right away! But it's only been ONE year since I started that job - and I've already been moved into a new role! It really is working out well. I think we just need to charge forward and let our mind take control of our emotions. You know? Just recognize the doubt. Be interested by it - and move forward.

Doubt is just one of those tests I think - it's one of those "gargoyles" that guard the gate of our destiny. It's asking you - "do you REALLY know what you want? Can you put it into words - and can you keep sight of the big picture."

I have a 10-year goal that I'm trying to meet - and EVERY day I have to remind myself of that goal - even when I feel like I'm wasting my time on the little tasks - I know that all of these little things add up to a BIG thing - and whoever is faithful in the small things, will also be faithful in the BIG things, you know?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 9:51am

ah yes... yes .. yes... thanks all. the children really do enjoy having me home at night. those sweet little faces and they are only young once... so yes, i made the right move and everything will work out.

thanks again for the encouragement,


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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 4:11pm
"One Hundred Years from now
It will not matter
what kind of car I drove,
What kind of house I lived in,
how much money was in my bank account
nor what my clothes looked like.
But the world may be a better place because
I was important in the life of a child."

good one to remember. thanks!