Christmas Presents for Other Family

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
Christmas Presents for Other Family
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 4:33pm

This isn't a "second marriage" question, but it is one that those of you in second marriages may be able to answer from experience.

I have been in a relationship with a fine man (a widower) for almost a year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 5:19pm

WE have some others involved with widowers, who might have better perspective than I do.

My thoughts are:

RE: you/he xmas gifts---do it on Dec 23 (before family comes to town).

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2005
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 11:21am

Hi and welcome to our board.

I think Laurena answered your questions well and it's what I would've suggested too. Well, I would've suggested that, or no presents across the board. But always nice to bring a food gift for the house/party. It'd be something that your 'contributing' without getting into "gift giving".

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 12:33pm

My first thought was like yours.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:23pm

I agree that Laurena hit it.


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
Mon, 12-20-2010 - 11:56pm
Thanks for the advice. I do bake, but I'm thinking more along the lines of bringing a platter of cookies for everyone to share. I would like to give the grandkids (2 and almost 5) something small.

My daughter is in her twenties. She has never met his daughters, who are about the same age. I hope they hit it off.

As far as I know, his daughters are ok with his dating. And his mother-in-law has been really nice about it. His wife died a little over 3 years ago. I gather this is the first xmas they are all ready to celebrate. Previous years her absence was still a focal point. But I confess I am nervous about the whole thing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
Tue, 12-21-2010 - 12:30am

I haven't found a "relationship with widower" forum;