I would like to know how (or if) I should discuss the future with someone I've dated for over a year. I'm concerned that he'll pop the question and I'll say, hang on!, we have issues to discuss before I will accept. As you can imagine, I'd rather reply with something more romantic. We are divorced and have one child each, but the real caveat is that he will be moving in a couple years. That would affect my daughter's relationship with her father. Her father isn't terribly involved, never has been, and when I've mentioned moving out of "his" town, he's said, fine, as long as I drop child support. Okay, that's another issue, and you may not agree, but I would drop child support since I can support her on my own, thank you very much. :-)
Back to the main issue ... how would I effectively bring up this discussion with my SO without jumping the gun? He has said more than once, "maybe you'll want to go with us when we move". Well, yes, but we have to be married first! No, I didn't say that, I simply avoided answering, because I am nervous about the "M" word.
As an aside ... I really truly want to marry him - as mushy as it sounds, he is my soul mate.
Thank you in advance for any suggestions!