Emotional Blackmail

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Emotional Blackmail
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:35am

Read this twice, first time apply it to your partner and you in the roles of Victim/blackmailer, then reverse the roles and see what you think.

I find it an interesting exercise to do, because I have at times acted like the victim, but at other times, I have manipulated to get my way.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 6:43pm

i used to refer to my exH as an Emotional Terrorist. one step up from an emotional blackmailer (and he would agree). His answer when i asked him why he did it was "because i can".

so i agree with the statements about what the victim needs to do. first for me was to stop seeing myself as a victim. start setting boundaries. and finding the support from family, friends, even strangers, to enforce those boundaries.

a wise pastor friend of mind said "how do you stop a bully? get a bigger bully!" He was refering mostly to calling the cops. but basically meaning get help.


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 11:56am