ENGAGED - and the winner is... EC!

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ENGAGED - and the winner is... EC!
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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 10:51am

hahaha... i must sound just a tad bit insane. Now I

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:13am

Congratulations! I am anxious to see how things go after everything you two have gone through to get to this point. I know you were finally in a really good place personally, so I hope that continues.

Definitely keep us posted on your journey!

Serenity
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:14am

Well, congratulations--and post a picture of the ring, why don't you?

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:18am

Just me again. Trying to see if my new signature shows up.

Serenity
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:43am
Thank you!

"take your time"... that makes me laugh. EC doesn't want to wait... But i told him realistically you can't rush these things.. planning a wedding and reception.... saving money.

When i looked up how much an "average" wedding costs... Gee, it's a wonder how anybody gets married. The Knot said the average wedding is $20,000. OMG!

As i've oftened shared on this site... for my last wedding i spent only $500 but then spent $5000 on the divorce. How backwards is that... So EC knows, i want to invest in the wedding/marriage and start off right. When it's important, you find a way. "where your treasure is there your heart will be also..."... I have no intention of spending $20,000 but i don't wanna be cheap either (not this time around).

And, yes, i'm still in a very good place personally / spiritually. I'm hoping to see that continue... my belief is that this relationship will enhance my journey and not be a hinderance.

I keep saying i need to do my nails before i can take a picture of the ring. hahaha So a photo is forthcoming...
Loonybunny
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Registered: 02-20-2002
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:50am
Wait........who's EC?

Is he the guy you were living with as your SO and he kept post poning the ring/engagment stuff? (ALERT: I can be a REAL pessimist sometimes: if this is the same guy, I hope he didnt just buy the ring on huge credit, and then *you* will essentially be making the payments as you live together/merge finances etc)............

at any rate---I'm assuming he *is* the same guy----and you sound happy about it all----------so, that's what's important, hence I am happy for YOU :) :) !!

The plus is he DID at least *do* something (of course.....aughhhh!--beat me up for being such a pessimist.......but if it's going to take that huge of a fire to get him moving on things *important* to you.............just something to keep in the back of your mind)

(ON THE OTHER HAND...............perhaps he just now *saw the light*....................)


Honestly, LB, I *dont* want to rain on your parade at all.......................you do have my BEST WISHES and keep us posted on it all :) !!
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 12:26pm
Yes, EC (which stands for Eye Candy because i was so gaga over his good looks in the beginning) is the same.

Cautious note well taken. Believe me I'm cautious too. What i feel happy about is that i know what i want and he is being respectful of that.... Being positive and growing at work, pursuing a solid church life, pursuing a solid family life... these things are still number one to me (hahaha tied for number one cause that was three things)... As the engagement lines up and support those things, then it is a good choice. But since i'm being cautious, it's never too late to make "course corrections"...

thanks so much for the well wishes.
Loonybunny
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Registered: 02-20-2002
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 2:38pm
" What i feel happy about is that i know what i want and he is being respectful of that...."


Yes.....that will serve you well regardless.....

CONGRATULATIONS/BEST WISHES again---

and keep us posted :)
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Registered: 07-07-2008
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 5:19pm
I have to say I am a bit surprised...do you know what kind of "work" he did on his part in the relationship while you were apart?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 6:41pm

I spent much, much less on my 2nd wedding and we had somewhere around 75 people I think.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:59am
I am with Larena and Bella, so be mindful of whether or not he has truly made any changes.

As you say, there is time for "course corrections." I think I mentioned this before, that my GF had essentially the exact thing happen to her, they got M a couple months later, and it is not going well. So bad in fact, they never had reception for friends that they had originally planned on. So our shared concern is our concern for YOU!

I agree that not being in a big hurry to get M will be very telling if he has really accepted what it is important to you, or not. I really do hope it has. He needs to accept you for you are, just as you do of him.

If your fist wedding was not much of a wedding, then I agree there should be a degree of getting what you want. Within reason, of course! My second wedding was my "real" wedding, also.

Serenity

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