EW of 25 years shows up, what to do
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|Tue, 04-27-2010 - 12:58am|
I am new on this board, I will really appreciate your opinion about this strange problem that showed up on my marriage. We are married for 23 years, it is my husbands second marriage and my first.
my husband divorced his first wife 25 years ago after she had an affair and left him for her new boyfriend. they had not been intouch since than, they don't have any children in common or anything else and they live in different countries.
since she married she had 2 children and then divorced her second husband after he cheated on her. now she is married for the third time and had a tragedy were her daughter died.
apparently after that tragedy her life changed, she became a religious believer and is repenting for all her life sins.
Due to that she is contacting my husband and his family which she didn't contact for 25 years and asked him for forgiveness. he told her that he forgives her since his life is completely in another direction and has nothing to do with her.
this thing is that she keeps writing to him about her misery and he wants to write to her back but he does not know what to write and keeps thinking about her.
My question is, does it sound normal that an ex-wife will try to re-connect 25 years after with her problems which are really bad but have nothing to do with us? could something like this add problems to our marriage that was not easy anyway? things from that old marriage have interfered in the begriming of our marriage and I worked hard to become wife "number one" who gave him everything he has today.
what will you do in my place? would you let your husband be in contact with his ex wife from 25 years ago and her problems? how can you convince him not to? should i have pity for her?
he says that it has no real meaning for him it is just like an old friend.