Is the EX being fair or unfair?

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Is the EX being fair or unfair?
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:24am
Well my husband and I have good communition so good he tells me everything he and his ex talk about everytime he calls to know about his son, he today told me that when he spoke with his ex last week she was telling him how bad of a father my husband is to their son, why? simply she said their son isnt worth just 200 dollars a month which is the child suppirt amount he sends, they dont live in this country they live in our country which is the Dominican Republic, for those of u that dont know 1 dollar is about 28 pesos in my country which when exchange the 200 is very good amount for a 3 years old child. Is true not kid is worth the child support they get but that's what they get from daddy to help out , at least my husband is being responsible and sends the money he is to pay, she saids my husband should send some extras from when the kid wants to go to park or have ice cream or micellanius like that which i dont think is fair for her to say that, she alos works and is also her child and she is to contribute as well with this kid. I dont knwo if im being unfair thinking like this but i do to get child support for my daguhter from her daddy and i deal withthat money and dont beg for more. This lady is like on chirtmas and stuff like that my husband should send extra in top of what is alredy send so she can buy the kid all he wants, she says she spoils her kid and he needs to do the same is she in her right mind or what?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 1:41pm
Well, actually you can both be right. She shouldn't ask for more money if your husband is paying what the law says he should pay. Child support is supposed to go toward the support of the child. It doesn't always include extras. If your husband isn't comfortable with sending her money for little extras, he could send a package to the child from time to time with clothes, favorite snacks, toys.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 2:30pm
Actually that's what we do when ever we have the opportunity we send him clothe and stuff but she is never stisfy, she said that last two time we send clothe it wasnt enough so u can rely to that, she complaints cause all she wants is for my husband to fully support their son and her taking her of her own stuff. She says she has to take the kid out every weekend which not even us here go out every weekend so i guess she jsut has to learn to deal with what;s she is getting from now. Soon will bring the kid to live with us and my husband asked her if she will be sending us money to support she said not way of course he asked her to see her reaction cause we would never ask her for nothing but that how things work here in the states, my sister pays child support for her daughter since her daughter doesnt live with her so what comes around goes around. I just want her to just chill and i dont know how to make her understand.