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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:50pm|
Hi guys...I'm sitting here feeling undermined and thought I'd share my feelings here with you where I know I'll be understood. My husband and I each have two kids and we all live here in our home. This afternoon I had my step-daughter grounded in her room until it was cleaned...that meant closet, floor, clothes, junk...you know, the works. My husband knew of my plans and was in complete agreement. Well I get a call from him saying that her mom called him and wanted to come and get her for the rest of the day and all of tomorrow. Seems she wants her to babysit tomorrow. He called to tell me she was on her way and asked what I thought about it. I told him that she had just gotten started on her room, and he realized she was cleaning her room, but said she could do that when she comes back on Sunday. I told him that pretty much undermines my authority. He started sounding frustrated and said he felt in the middle and didn't know what to do. He asked what he should do. I wanted to tell him to stick with me...tell her mom no, have her come get her after her room was done...but I didn't. All I said was that I didn't want to tell him what to do because that makes me the bad guy. I told him he had to make his own decision. Was that a good thing? Should I have told him what to do? I think he would have gotten upset with me. He called me back and told me that he told his ex about the grounding and that she was already on her way. So...her mom came to get her and she left. Guess she'll just have to finish it on Sunday when she comes home. So what are your thoughts on this issue? Do I just take my place as the second fiddle step mom? That's how I feel sometimes. Thanks for listening.