Finding Church - update

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Finding Church - update
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 6:42pm

we successfully made it to the 6pm saturday service. I left the children with my mom, tho, since i wasn't sure what kind of children's program they would have. Unfortunately, they didn't have any for the 6 pm service. It was a great service but unless i get a sitter every time, it wouldn't work out long term. :(


Did i have to drag him? hmm... yes and no. Something came up for him saturday and it would have caused him to miss it. I didn't have to force him, but i did say, "what about church?".


He thought about it for a bit then got back to me that church was more important. And we went and we were on time.


We also thought about trying out another church Sunday morning. But since we both couldn't decide which one and what time.... we didn't go. I sorta figured if we didn't make a decision the day before, then it was probably not gonna happen.


This saturday we are gonna try the 6pm service again. BF really liked the preacher, so i'm feeling this is a good time of a service to attend until we find a permanent church home. We have also decided ahead of time to visit his mother's church for Easter Sunday. Her church has a good children's child. So i know they will have a good study... even though the adult service might be too conservative. We shall see.


Again the good news is we are going. and we are working together on this issue.


I REALLY hope i was able to get him to understand this is VERY important to me. And not just that we go, but that i don't have to "drag" him. And i hope i have enough patience during this process too.


Loonybunny

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 7:07pm

Just a thought....


It is possible that he may be more inclined to like the 'idea' of finding a church, making a comitment to one parish, however (sorry, that is what us Catholics call them) might be a different story.


I have a little different perspective to throw out, just for you to chew on.

Serenity
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 8:20pm

I just end up with a big

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:28pm

and just like that. I had a revelation on this topic.


I need to own my own spiritual growth and not someone else's. While it would be nice to find something together, i need to let go of that. focus first on what works for my children and for me. commit to my own spiritual growth, and leave EC in the hands of his own Higher Power.


thanks so much for what you said. It really helped me see things in a better light.


I have called EC and apologized for imposing on him. (i did get a sense that he is committed to finding a church but the difference is that i won't get upset. or try to control things.)


so, i think i found my peace about this situation.


letting go and letting God.


Loonybunny

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 12:24pm

Glad that all made sense to you.

Serenity