I have been married with my second huusband for about two years.
wow; I would be going crazy also..and to me it isnt right that your hubby is communicating with her because he is married to you.. He shouldnt have any dealings with her privately.. He seems to be hiding his communicating with her and not involving you in on it. If its about the son then it should go through the courts and that is it.. If she is married she should leave your husband alone.. I dont care what anyone says you guys are married to other people so leave other married people alone. End of story!!!!!!!!!!!! By the way who uses love in a conversation to any woman when they
I meant no contact with the woman but if they have a child together and your hubby wants to see the child and he has to pay support then I believe arrangements have to be made for that.
I would agree that something is not adding up here.
Well? I do agree with some of what you say Itshightime but I do feel that your info. although very understanding we dont live in a perfect world..and people do crazy things and if her husband has nothing to hide he will hide nothing.
So lets just say if she needs to earn his trust because of what he has done then she needs him to be an open book about his whole life.. If he loves her and wants to stay with her then he will do this for keeping the marriage together.
So if his wife wants to see his texts; emails; phone calls; etc. etc. he as an upstanding honest great all around human being will show her that he has nothing to hide..
I also believe that there is no place in any relationship for three people especially if they are married to other people.
Only other thing Nurse could do is invite over for dinner this woman with her husband and have the four of them sort it all out. Now that would be in a nice idyllic world.. They could discuss all on their minds and even talk about the guys child.
I dont agree with the guy about his child. He should be seeing the child and paying support but going through legal channels.
It sounds like to me the guy likes to flirt and just have his ego boosted with this other woman he had a child with. If he needs that he should be getting it from his wife...
Hi Free:Well, I'm not really coming from the angle of believing that the world can be perfect. Nor am I saying that the husband has nothing to hide. And I am not saying she cannot ask for respect in her marriage.I am resisting the snooping as going too far. It seems controlling. It seems to force an unwanted intimacy. And the negativity that it invests into a relationship can destroy the relationship, even if it were to turn out that he is just friends with his ex. I have a BF but sometimes I think about my about an ex and I miss him. Suppose my ex & I exchanged texts. I don't see any value in my BF looking, without my permission, at the texts. I don't see the value in my BF prying into my private thoughts and finding that place that still cares for my ex. Yes, it would be a problem if I set up a meeting and went off and had sex with the ex. Yes, I will tell my BF if he asks about how I've been hurt before. I will expose myself to him voluntarily. But my BF shouldn't rip off the covers to see me naked. And I don't expect that of him, either. I think we should all be entitled to some privacy in our lives. And also, I don't see the problem with men & women being friends with their exes. I have another ex who is a great friend of mine and I genuinely care for him as a friend. I am a great ally to any future GF (he's a quintessential bachelor at this point). So I could tell him I love him as a friend in one sentence and in the next sentence give him dating advice and hope that he finds someone long term. The two (caring for
I thank everyone for their input.