grumpy old men
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|Thu, 11-15-2012 - 4:14pm|
Ok...I know most of you are younger than I am, but do your dh's/SO's ever get grumpy? Mine sure does. UGH Why can't men just say, "I'm not feeling well or I've had a bad day at work, etc.." and tell us WHY they're grumpy? With my dh, it's either, he's either had a bad day workwise, his chest is hurting (he suffers chronic pain due to nerve damage during a surgery 10 years ago), or he simply doesn't feel well. I've had to tell him more than once, that whatever is it, I don't deserve to have him take it out on me. THEN he shuts up. sigh
Anyway, I got home last night and was telling dh about my DD25 getting an apartment, he immediately said, "You're not getting involved and doing nothing to help her." JUST like that! He should know after 4 years that telling me what I can and cannot do regarding my children simply isn't going to fly with me. I said to him, "And YOU never helped YOUR older 2 (who are now 29 and 30) after THEY were 25 years old?? OMG!!! REALLY??? Wow. He shut up. As a matter of fact, helping his mentally ill 30 year old son is going to be a constant in our life and yes...it affects us financially. Granted, his sons all have problems, but I will not let him dictate what I can or cannot do to help my children. To be honest, ladies, my dh exhausts me sometimes. He's strong-willed, hard headed and WHY he feels the need to tell me what to do is beyond me. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly, but he's kind of being a slow learner when it comes to me.
As for other wives, like Druidpixie...I think if spouses flirted more with each other and lightened up, they'd be better off. Dh and I still do and often tell each other we're each other's favorite "playmate". :) It's unfortunate life comes between people and tears them apart. As you all know, it's really only the "his kid"/ "my kid" thing that we argue about and probably always will which is ridiculous since they're all adults. sigh
Glad to hear, Serenity, that you and SO have only grown closer. I agree with you...when you can get through the tough times, it DOES bring you closer. :)