I had my first moment of
She really didn't do anything more than hurry them up so I figure this is more of a me issue than a her issue.
sorry it made you uncomfortable.
I can understand it being weird because it used to be her home and it was the marital home.
When our kids were little, I always used to go in the ex's house (w/ his 2nd DW) when I picked them up and we would chat about anything to do w/ the kids. Sometimes his DW was there, sometimes not. I mean, at the time our DS was a toddler so I actually had to physically get him & bring him to the car. But what was funny but somewhat awkward for me, was that as DS got older, if my ex & his DW had something done to their house, he would invite me in to show it to me. I would be thinking "I'm sure that his DW would not really want me being shown her new whatever." But as time went by, it got more normal to be there--my DD's high school graduation party was even at their house.
When you marry someone w/ kids & an ex, you really never get rid of the ex, at least until the kids are grown & on their own, so just be glad if they get along.
When the ex first moved out, it only took one time of him stopping by without calling for me to let him and both boys know that the polite thing to do is call first.
The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.
I think that boundaries should be set especially if you've moved on and remarried or are supposed to be remarrying.