Happy Easter!

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Happy Easter!
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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 9:46am
I just wanted to pop in and wish everyone a Happy Easter! I hope you all have a wonderful day with family/friends. Dh, his sons and I will be spending the day with HIS family 2 1/2 hours away as I have none here. I tried to get DD20 to spend today with me in this other city, then just meet dh and his boys at dh's parents' house for dinner tomorrow. But, DD20 as usual declined saying, "Why would I do THAT??" To which I responded, "To spend time with a mother you never call or never see??" She also said, "Why would I spend Easter with HIS family. They're not MY family." Needless to say, we had words and we are no longer speaking. I told her to grow up and accept that she IS now part of 2 other families. She is now a stepgrandchild, a stepcousin, etc...and dh's family would embrace her if she would just let them. My MIL is the warmest, sweetest woman who would make anyone feel loved and welcome. My daughters all feel the same way which is why they spend every holiday with their father's family who lives close by and not their mother. I told dh and the other night when I was really down that I might just stay home and be sad. My girls are still part of the family I was part of for almost 30 years and very close to, but I'm not. Dh's family is wonderful, but I will never have the years of memories with them that I have with ex's family. And, my DD's are not related by blood to this family, so have no desire to spend time with them. It's SO hard. But, out of love for my MIL, I will go. We haven't seen them since Christmas.
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 7:13pm

For what it is worth Starting, SO's kids have never participated in family events with my family.

Serenity
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Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 9:16am

Thanks, Serenity.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 11:41am

Yea, if you felt they had a choice between your

Serenity
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 3:01pm

Happy Easter Ladies! I hope everyone managed to have a nice time with all the families. Mine was low key, kids both spent Saturday night away, so Easter morning was...different....

Interesting thoughts about the "blending" of fmailies with older kids. I like SO's older son a lot, but can;t see myself ever in a "stepmother" sort of roll (for a varity of family drama reasons, I have never even met the younger one). He knows my kids well, but he is no way in a parental role with them, he is "Mom's boyfriend". They respect as they do any other adults in my life.