Hello - short introduction

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Hello - short introduction
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 8:19pm

Hello, I am migrating over from a dating board, too. Since things have gotten uber-serious with my boyfriend, i'm thinking of learning what people are talking about here... plus, it was recommended from some other members too.


I am 37. I've been married and divorced twice. I have

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 12:45pm

Hi and welcome to the board.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 3:40pm

Hi And welcome!


When are you getting married?

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Registered: 10-04-2006
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 3:00pm

Hi and welcome to our board LoonyBunny! BTW, love the bunny avatar, too cute.

Yup, I was disconnected from the internet all weekend. Yuck. As a newbie to this board, and about to get married (firstly, congrats! When's the date? what're the wedding plans, with the kids, etc?) we like to recommend the book The Hard Questions by Susan Piver. It's a really great book to start talking about the things most couples like to avoid, because it's "unromantic". Take a look at the book when you can and see if it's something that'd be useful for the two of you (it usually, is, but then, there are those couples who talk about a lot of that stuff prior).

Again, welcome!

 





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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 2:07pm

Welcome!

Serenity
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Registered: 06-03-2008
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 4:58pm

Welcome!


You are right - there are lots of great people on this board, mostly women but occasionally get a man peeking in here!


I am on my second marriage, as is my husband.




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Registered: 04-09-2009
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 7:10pm

It's easy to get addicted to this forum lunny.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 10:40pm

thanks for some very good feedback already.


We don't have a date set. He hasn't bought a ring either. But he has asked me on many occasions if i want to marry him. At first I always said, one day at a time. I wasn't ready to make a commitment until i really got to know him. And i feel like i'm still getting to know him. I think i'm like Honnee, in that i'm here because the possibility of marrying again is there and i want to know what i'm getting into.


He is not living with me but he comes over practically daily. And has started spending the night quite often too. I dont' want to actually live with him prior to getting married.


What i've been looking at is that it costs a lot of money to get married. My first two were quick and cheap. And i felt like the marriages reflected that too, unfortunately. So, i told him upfront that i want a wedding that costs money. I want to know that the man who is marrying me knows that i am worth it. My guy wants to give me what i want but saving up for it might take quite a while.


So for now, he is still the boyfriend who spends a lot of time at the house. Without a ring i refuse to call him my fiance, even tho he has made his mind up that he wants to marry me and i am 90% sure we will eventually get married.


thanks again for the welcome.


Loonybunny

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 8:26am

LB - Good for you for wanting to take it easy and slow and figure things out first.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.