Hi and welcome to the board.
Sounds like you two have very different parenting styles. Did you two discuss this prior to marriage? Does he have his DD all the time, or weekends, etc? Is he a Disney Dad?
Also, when you said your son sees this and it's difficult, is it because he understands what is going on, or because he's not getting the material items your DSD is getting?
IMHO, I'd suggest seeking help from a third party, especially if you feel your DH won't listen to you. I know criticizing anothers parenting style is a very touchy subject. So you have to go at this with the right tools. Unfortunately, if he has a "mental block" to what is going on, I have a feeling change will be difficult or impossible. Do you think he'd be open to seeing a family counselor of sorts? Would you be open to it?
I'm hoping others will post. I know many have given great advice in these situations. I'm not a parent, so I try to not give too much advice about kids.
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When I got married to my 2nd DH, he had 1 child full time as he was a widower and I had 2 kids most of the time.