Help on blending

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Registered: 05-12-2004
Help on blending
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 9:16pm
Ok, I need some advice. I am getting married soon. Second marriage for both. We both have lived on our own for about 4 years. I'm in a 3 bedroom house and he was in an apt. plus has all his parents stuff (they are deceased)now in what is going to be "our" home. The home he bought is a little smaller than mine. I don't know how we are going to fit everything in it. Most of my furniture I don't care about. I have some pieces that are family heirlooms. Those I will not part with. I have already began to weed thru stuff and get rid of it. I know that we both will have to part with things.

Then there is the decorating issue. Quite frankly, I have never known a man to care what the home looked like (decorating). This one does. I like country/homey and he likes modern/sterile. He says that I can do what I want but I don't want to totally disregard his feelings. I can't stand sterile. He has one bedroom designated as his office. I hope that it will be enough to decorate like he wants. He keeps telling me that all he wants is a place to sit and watch tv. I hope that is true.

We've been together for the 4 years but I guess I'm getting nervous about the total all the time. It's just been weekends for the most part, we live in different cities. I love him, I just want it to go smoothly. LOL Is that too much to ask?

Any advice to make it flow?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 10:46am

I hope that you and he can approach this with a sense of humor.


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Registered: 08-08-2003
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 9:34am

Hi there.


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