His ex-wife lives next door
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|Tue, 06-15-2010 - 4:59am|
My fiance and I live in a difficult situation: his ex-wife lives next door. How this came to be is that her parents bought the house next door so they could stay there on visits. When she left him, she moved over there (it sat empty most of the year). We believe that she is living there rent-free and doesn't have any intention of leaving. His house has been for sale for the past year, but, given the economy and that it is a large, expensive house, we don't anticipate it selling any time soon. Actually we would prefer to stay here. We have made an offer to buy her out on the house if she will move, but we don't believe she will take it.
The problem is that I don't see myself being able to stand living next door to her indefinitely. He doesn't at all want to live next door to her either, but he doesn't see how we have a choice until the house sells. I have told him I will bear it for another year, in hopes that the house will sell, but, if it doesn't, I want to move into a rental house. That of course will mean paying for two houses at once. He is skeptical about whether we could afford that, but I have been renting an apartment this past year, and I think we could afford it if we had to. To me, this seems a reasonable plan. It will be two years that I have put up with being next door to her, and I don't think it would be fair to ask more of that of anyone. Some people, however, think I should "suck it up" and just learn to live with the situation. My fiance has agreed to the plan for now, but I do wonder what will happen in a year. We are getting married next month, and I will naturally be living with him full time.
Am I crazy? It is an unbearable situation to live next door to someone's ex-wife, isn't it? Does anyone think I am being unreasonable? How am I supposed to "learn to live with it"?