I need advice on what others do in regards to "your kids, his kids".
Comparing kids is saying mine are better than yours because...
Treating them equally is a different story. Sounds to me like it makes sense that you have a girl's weekend with your daughters. I know from reading your posts that your SO has a lot of issues about his sons. I don;t envy him with the way they turned out, and I am sure he can;t help but compare his sons to your daughters. But that's just part of life. Would he wish mental illness and addiction on your children just beacuse his suffer from it? He should b happy for you that your choildren are independent and self sufficient.
Enjoy your mall weekend with your daughters! I want to come too!
So you're saying that your younger 2 DDs live in the same city as you and yet you don't see them?
Your DD's are in another state, correct?
I think that's my dh's point...that I'm being used.
Thanks for the input and I know you're right...young people are so self-absorbed in their own lives that they tend to forget they have parents until they need something.
Thanks for sharinig about your kids living situation with your sister.
My opinion doesn't come from being part of a blended family as an adult nor as a child.
I do think part of it is that your DDs really don't know how to be self supporting adults--I'm sure your ex thought he was doing a great job as a dad at giving them everything that they needed & more, but it doesn't really help them now.
I've suggested separate checking accounts to dh before to