His kids???

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2008
His kids???
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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 8:24am

I am not married, so I'm a bit of interloper here.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2010
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 11:36am

When it comes to "him and I", there is no money (or so he says)... He does nothing special for US.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 12:28pm

Welcome!

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2006
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 12:08am

Maybe it is just a matter of clarifying with HIM what HE expects from you with the kids ... you know? Where does HE envision you in their lives - is it just a peripheral role? Or does he want you to step in and parent???

I think in my last relationship, I was pretty comfortable being the "fun aunt" and just kind of letting him do all the work of parenting - but he was expecting me to be more of a replacement MOM to them, you know? I think that really was a big part of our demise.

Clarify HIS expectations. There is a reason your intuition is flaring up - listen to your inner voice. It's trying to tell you SOMETHING!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 11:28am
excellent post, CD.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2008
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 9:35am

Yes, we have talked, and waht he wants is for me to be the "fun aunt."

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2006
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 11:08pm

"My role is to think they

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2011
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 2:27pm

Sounds to me like you really don't want to go back to being a parent of young children.

Anna wife to Sam, mom to my 3 sons, and stepmom to Sam's 2 daughters :) Work from home and love it - www.workathomeunited.com/AnnaAbma

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