Hope everyone had a goood Thanksgiving

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Hope everyone had a goood Thanksgiving
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 11:55am

Did the holiday go well for you? How did things go overall? Any issues that cropped up this year?

Overall, for myself, holidays are pretty simple since 1. we don't have kids and 2. our parents live down the street from one another. The only issue I had this year was that I was unable to bring my dogs with me to my parents house. Unfortunately, they've been banned (nephews are allergic). It kinda sucks and obviously, it also means we don't get to stay there as long nor be there as often. I'm kinda peeved about it, but we all know human welfare is more important than dogs. Sigh.

Another thing I had an issue with is my DH. He does this every time we go to my folks, so I shouldn't be upset, but we talk about it every time we go to my folks. I guess it's one of those things I need to learn to accept as I don't know how to deal with it. Thoughts? When we go to my folks house, he'll leave to go "say hi" to his parents. Well, he'll be gone for hours. Come to my folks to eat dinner (or whatever) then promptly fall asleep. So, basically, he comes to my folks house for food and a nap. It irritates me to no end and I think it's really rude. Bleah. it's one reason I'm happy spending Christmas apart (he basically doesn't ruin my favorite holiday). He also likes to go home by 9pm. My family are night owls and also, once my brother and his family leave, I actually get time to spend with my mom and dad....alone....without interruption...and with their undivided attention. Usually they're too busy entertaining the kids.

Maybe I'm being selfish, maybe I just want to spend some quality time with my folks. I dunno. But during the holidays, is when I would rather leave DH at home, then come with me and it makes me sad. Actually, I'd rather leave him home anytime I visit my folks. lol. Just because I think what he does is so disrespectful.

Ah the holidays. Time to want to ring someone's neck. lol. I mean, the time for families to get together. ;)

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Registered: 02-20-2002
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 12:38pm

Hi Cheryl,

I had a great thanksgiving weekend... :)

We picked up my two kids who live in this state, and drove to other state to visit 3rd child and GF....we did things like symphony and shopping, and it was just a fun weekend.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 2:28pm

My SO hates this time of year, period.

Serenity
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 4:45pm

We went to DF's mom's for Thanksgiving. She hosted two thanksgivings... one for us on Thursday and another for more family (she said about 16 people) on Friday. Ideally, i would have invited her and her husband over to my house but money has been extremely tight lately. She said she was happy to have us come over to her house. We brought 3 of my kids, and two of DF's kids. During the day, my kids and i cooked some pies to bring. We had fun with that and they came out good.

We picked up DF's kids at around 4pm, then went over to his mom's. She was a great host. The kids were well behaved. After dinner, the kids all played and the adults sat around the tv. It was a good visit. then DF kept his kids til Sunday.

Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 4:47pm
oh, also, DF and i worked on Friday and that's why we couldn't attend the friday's feast at his mom;s.
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 5:10pm

We had a nice time.




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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 5:33pm

feel free to start a new thread about the picky eating. I've been dealing with this too with DS11. But i'm happy to say he ate Turkey for the first time this Thanksgiving. He will eat a lot of different foods now, it just takes him forever. He sat at the table long after the other kids started playing. But he ate it all and then was able to have dessert.

Loonybunny

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 8:57pm

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 10:47pm

My Italian grandfather had some saying like if a dog is really hungry they will eat onions.

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 8:20am

All in all Thanksgiving went well. I hosted my mother and sister at my house and the three of us split the cooking. Of course, Mom came and ate and visited for about an hour after dinner and then ran off to shop.

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 1:20pm

Sounds like everyone had an overall good day/weekend. I'm glad to hear it. I watched my brother struggle with feeding his older son. honestly, that boy kinda scares me. I asked him if he wanted something (one of those french fry things that you put on top of food, cant recall the name). And he said no. I said, it tastes like french fries. So he took one from my hand, then proceeded to throw it at me and say, i don't want it. Wow. Another time, him and his younger brother were playing (oh, eldest will be 4 in Jan, youngest just turned 2), not with each other, but then older brother, grabs toy from younger brother and pushes him down. younger brother gets up and older brother pushes him back down. by that time, my mom grabbed him and told him to stop pushing him. Sadly, I see the pattern of my brother/dad abuse repeating itself. The older kid is one angry child. Abusive to people and his brother.

I had a point here. lol. Oh, it was about food. Eldest son refused to eat anything on his plate. My brother tried a few different tactics. The only one that seemed to work is to allow him to run around and come back for food once in awhile. The youngest is a piglet, but he didn't eat either. I guess neither one cared for turkey. lol.

As for my DH and I. I think maybe next year, I will just tell him to go to his family gathering and do what he wants. I accept that this is how he'll be at my folks house, but I don't have to see him do it. Heck, I already made him choose to help out at my dog training class, or stop coming. Seriously, he'd sit there and surf on his phone the entire hour. He's basically a paperweight for the dog/leash. I guess, I'm just fed up with his inaction at most things. Especially when I'm busy helping out, doing this, doing that and all he does is sit there. Sigh.

Ah, the holidays. Actually with the DH issue, it's everytime we go over. Oh well. He also hates staying past 9pm, lol. Maybe he should drive himself, then I can stay as long as I want.

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