how to share bedrooms in blended family
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|Fri, 04-05-2013 - 3:51pm|
Well, as I type this, I wonder if maybe it should have gone under blended families but, since it may be a HUGE issue for my marraige, I'm posting it here.
This is second marraige for DH and myself. We are almost to the 3yr mark. My son and I moved from our home town, where he was born and raised to DH house. It was tough for my son initially (and I suspect in some ways still is). Fortunately, we were able to give all the kids their own bedrooms initially (we gave up a hobby room) eventhough SD and SS are only here 50% of the time. However, it looks like we may be downsizing homes and 2 kids may have to room together. I know to most people (DH included) it makes more sense for the boys (13/15) to room together but I disagree. SKs share a room at their mom's and always have so it wouldn't be a new thing for them. My son however is the oldest, has always had his own room, already "took a hit" to move here, and demonstrates a HIGH need for personal space (SKs do not, they tend to be more "clingy" to us). The 2 boys shared a room for a year when a relative lived with us and oldest hated it...they are VERY different kinds of kids one too mature for his age and the other immature for his age so not as close as we had hoped. DH still thinks the boys should share or we will have to turn a "living space" into bedroom space for another kid. We are already downsizing so losing additional living space is not an option for me. I feel we lose 1 bedroom and living space 100% of the time for SK's who are here 50%. I'd like to see SK share (most likey the biggest room). Am I being unreasonable?