I am officially a Mrs. AND, I need some in-law help
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|Mon, 06-17-2013 - 5:40pm|
First, the ceremony was wonderful! Sunset on the beach in Hawaii. Very excited to be married.
Here is my quandry. This is nothing new by any means. But just punctuated now that we are married.
My parents tend to mention my xH in conversation. Not in a pointed way or anything like that, just in conversation. Say....that they are over and my DH (will take a while to get used to that!) and my dad are looking out into the back yard and my dad will say "oh yea, I had to help xH......" or when at their house "xH came over and fixed _____ for us." Never directly regarding xH versus DH or anything. But just enough that I don't blame DH for being a little annoyed.
Obviously my DD is going to mention her dad. And we can somewhat understand my big kids occasionally mentioned him, as they still have a relationship with him. But my parents mentioning him is really getting to DH. Honestly, if it didn't bother DH, I don't know if I would take too much notice of it. I don't know, maybe I still would.
DH knows that he is somewhat sensitive and tries to take some of it with a grain of salt, but he already doesn't feel totally welcomed by my family (again, partially his own stuff) and my dad did it again just yesterday on Fathers Day. Ugh! We made until right before we were leaving and his name came up. Later my DH says "I wonder if your dad just can't help himself."
I have to admit, even though I can accept my dad with all of his quirks, when my parents came over the day after we got home to visit, I did get a little bothered when my dad started talking about other stuff and I did kind of get a glimpse of what my DH had been feeling. At least they didn't bring up my xH!!! My DH mentioned that my dad didn't even say contgratulations to him and I said "well, he didn't say it to me either." I didn't give it a second a thought, but it bothered DH.
Anyways, I am babling now.
I have talked to my sister about it, not really knowing what to do. And will probably ask her again. But wondering what all of you think. Last night DH just said "I guess it is just me and you babe. I wish it could be different with your family, but it is what it is." Sigh....