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|Mon, 04-19-2004 - 12:02pm|
Hi I need some to vent, need advice and a shoulder to cry on I just can't believe this and have NO IDEA how to handle it. Here it goes, I've been divorced for 9 months, seperated from ex for 13-14 months, I met my now husband through work (we were both truck drivers for the same comp. I worked weekends and he full time but I'd usually run with a group of the guys him one of them) we started to see eachother the week I moved out he had helped me move and I definately had no intentions of becoming so attached to someone that quickly but I did (I had been married for 10 years but ex and I dated since I was 15, I'm now 33). Anyway my DH is a very protective person and my ex would routinely call me and harrass me one minute, say he was going to kill himself another, he'd threatened to kill ex and myself (that happened once) he'd call and say how much he loved me etc etc etc. Needless to say my DH had enough and the threats would go back and forth. Well my ex will call and just want to chit chat with me (usually will not call about the kids) he'll sob because his girlfriend and him broke up or talk about trucking (he is a truck driver, and DH is a truck driver and I was a truck driver we all actually worked for the same company at the start of all this). Well I usually will just be nice and talk back to him, we've been through the "don't ever call again unless its about the kids" thing a ton of times but he'll still call to chit chat. A week ago we had to go to court, so he called all upset because him and his girlfriend broke up, so he asked if I'd go out to lunch afterward I said I'll think about it. Well when I actually saw him and we talked a little at court I decided I couldn't stand to be around him so I said no on the lunch well when we left the court he grabbed me and tried to hug me, I pushed him away. Well seeing as I'm the type of person that don't keep anything to myself to my hubby I told him and he was PISSED. Well we got into a fight (hes a long haul trucker gone 2 weeks so he's not even at home) because then the next day my ex called and said he was going to be in the area and wanted to meet me and the kids at the park I said fine I'll drop off the kids for a little while I had someone coming to the house to take my dog. Well I found out later my DH just thought my ex was trying to get back with me and his mind just went crazy (he's had this happen before to him). He got really pissed and called my ex and said a whole lot of crap to him (ex said he threatened to kill him if he came near me, DH said no he didn't say that. I do know my DH can forget things he says and could have). Heres the BIG problem, my ex still has a relationship with MY dad and MY grandmother (my family has always been more of a family to him than his own), well I found out today my stupid ex called my dad and told him what my DH did. I just got the 3rd degree from my dad about it (oh my ex has ran to my parents for everything that has happened during this divorce).