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Registered: 02-10-2010
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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 2:52am

I am at a loss and need some sound advice.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: claudia2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 1:53pm

He just doesn't have the tools to be a husband, claudia.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: claudia2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 2:09pm

This is an unfortunate situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
In reply to: claudia2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 8:11pm

(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you


The others gave some good advice...


....I just want to say you're not alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2010
In reply to: claudia2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 9:04pm

Thank you so much for your advice ladies.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2006
In reply to: claudia2010
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 12:43pm

Hi and welcome to the board....

As I'm sure you've learned, meeting twice and talking on the phone aren't a replacement for "real life". But since you want to make this work, have you thought about marriage counseling? I'm not sure where you're from, or where he is, so obviously both your cultures will play into that. But it's something to think about.

As for the porn. Most men will lie lie lie about it. That's what they were brought up to do. LIE! Because "porn" is bad. Now, was your DH lying? Who knows. Why do you assume he was lying? Do you not trust him? If you don't trust him, why don't you?

Is he willing to work on this issue? I mean, does he actually have a porn addiction? Or was he using it while you two were separated? An addiction would be if he can't get aroused w/o the usage of porn.

I think we have a board here that deals with porn addiction. I apologize but I can't seem to find it, and my work blocks those sites. Maybe someone else can help me out?

Hugs. If you want this to work, he'll need to face the issues and agree to get some help or at least work on it. Trusting and honesty would be a great start.

 





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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: claudia2010
Sat, 02-13-2010 - 1:54pm

I think this is what the above poster was talking about (porn & your relationship)

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlhtporn

Good Luck to you (((hugs)))

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: claudia2010
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 10:01am

Hi Claudia.


While my DH was living on his own, be becamse addicted to porn and to masturbation.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2010
In reply to: claudia2010
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 6:34pm

Thank you so much for your reply Pam,


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: claudia2010
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:10am

It's interesting because one the reasons for my first divorce was because my ex was asexual.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2008
In reply to: claudia2010
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 6:53pm
IMAO: Cut you loss and get an annulment. His "problem" could be anything. You mean you did not have sex before marriage? So get the annulment and be free to try again.
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