Jealousy and the kids.....

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Jealousy and the kids.....
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:00am

We have been discussing alot about the children being jealous of new spouses.

PAMELA

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:22pm

Boy, do I

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 2:28pm
I am living with my STBH, who has 3 children, 2 that live nearby, one that has a child, and a DS that lives with us, along with my DD. His mom lives nearby, as well as his brother and his family. I am from out of state, so I don't have any family here, just friends. We all get along pretty well, but sometimes I feel like his family (which he always says the kids come first) intrudes on us a bit. An example of this is last night, when we were just going to go home, as his son was working, and my DD was with her BD - I thought we'd have a free night together, have a quickie dinner, and work on the yard. Weelll, his DD decided that her and her boyfriend, and his friend were going to crash at our house to use the grill to make dinner. I've had a problem with her coming over, making meals (after we've already eaten, cleaned up, etc) and she just leaves it for me to clean again. I really love his kids, but it seems like they are spoiled (as my daughter is, too, I guess) and there are a few other issues here (bad biological mother on their part, and bad father on my daughter's part). Sometimes I just feel like I am the "last to know" what plans are, or have my plans put on the back burner because something comes up. My DF tries really hard to make me feel better, or arrange it so EVERYONE is happy, but then I feel like he becomes miserable, and I back down to make it easier for him. Sorry if I'm all over the place with this, but the bottom line is yes, I do get jealousand somewhat resentful of my DF's attention to his family. (He is a GREAT dad, and has custody of his children for years).