Just a thought..

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Just a thought..
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Sat, 02-16-2013 - 11:15am

Have any one thought about this,  this marriage is the first between you and your partner, unless  you re-marrying your ex-partner.

So why drag in the bad from the old  times and why not start fresh?

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 5:33pm

I have opted to see my stepdaughter as my daughter fully,  she is the sister of  the  youngest daughter, that the mum differs doesnt matter.  Both daughters completes this family and we both have a hand in raising them.  Oldest is a young adult but she still needs a mother figure.

The reason a marriage fails isnt the one parters fault only, it is my own behavior  and my spouse behavour that led to divorces so I have to change and mature and figure out what I want and need in a realtionship before marring again and also I need to love my self.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 02-19-2013 - 10:29am

I agree that you have a point if you are bringing your issues from the first marriage into the 2nd one, for ex--if your 1st DH cheated on you, that you would be overly suspicious and assume that the 2nd DH is going to cheat on you as well, that would have a negative effect on the 2nd marriage.  That's why it's good for people to examine why the 1st marriage failed to make sure the same issues don't arise.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:51pm

Have any one thought about this,  this marriage is the first between you and your partner, unless  you re-marrying your ex-partner.

I think you have a very good point, and a wonderful way to put it!  In fact I am very happy in my second marriage.  A large part of it is neither one of us have children from the previous marriage.  Reading the posts here, many issues seem to rise from dealing with child custody, support and alimony issues, etc.  In other words,  not everyone is fortunately to have a "clean cut" divorce.