LIFE'S LITTLE GURUS

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Registered: 11-20-2008
LIFE'S LITTLE GURUS
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Wed, 04-21-2010 - 1:45pm

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The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 07-09-2007
Fri, 04-23-2010 - 4:34am
I have or I rather will have same problem the next year. My son will be graduating from the college and he has a girlfriend living in another country. It is better of course that he continues his education yet he will be 20 then and seeing her just on holidays will not be enough. He does not like much the girls here, well likes but not that much and yet they are foreigners for him. I am not saying anything at all, I do not even know how to say not to spoil everything. I can see she is not the last girl for him since she is the first serious (it seldom lasts lifetime), but same thing how can I say that? The distance apparently is here a plus because it makes a relationship at this age even more romantic, he is going for summer holidays to see the family and the GF and I will not be there so I am too a bit scared of the consequences. My job as a mother is to give him a good education so that he could have better chances in life ( I only hope the GF will think the same).
The only thing I can do now is to speak to him about life but it is not easy as he has yet a lot of illusions. I have no one to share the responsibilities, my DH is helping with the money but it will not last after he retires.
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Registered: 11-20-2008
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 8:12am

I do understand what you are saying.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 10-05-2009
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 7:17am
Pam, I can only comment on the end result of my own experiences with children and school choices. Making the relationship the priority when there is the commitment of marriage makes sense to me. But the choice and the expense of school chosen because that is where one's boyfriend or girlfriend will be attending has been a problem when they decide to break up.There are big financial responsibilities that go along with school and we as parents are not an endless well of money.I have heard my own children remark that they regret education choices they insisted on because of their need to be at the same school with their present significant other at the time.Sometimes when the relationship is taken out of the picture, to be so far from home and family is not so appealing and their choice of school would have been different.
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Registered: 11-20-2008
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 2:42pm

Ok, I have been stressing out over my youngest son's college selection.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.