At a loss, any thoughts or suggestions?

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Registered: 10-20-2008
At a loss, any thoughts or suggestions?
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Mon, 02-28-2011 - 8:15am

This past week my DH and I FINALLY had our first court hearing for him to get a court ordered custody agreement (after 4 years).

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Registered: 01-20-2011
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 11:31am
I have felt that because we dont have children together and they do many times I have felt second class and second best. I did not take my husband's surname because of this something that made him really mad. I want my surname to be that or my children's it is important to them and not all wives take the husband's name now. I feel your pain hugs x
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 11:51am

I'm a divorce lawyer and it's very normal when people go to court for mediation that only the parents w/ their lawyers are allowed to go in.

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Registered: 10-20-2008
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 12:01pm

No schedule, no nothing actually.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 12:48pm

Well Mrs., I think it is a little bit of both.

Serenity
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Registered: 10-20-2008
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 2:42pm

I do definitely catch myself at times being completely immature, like yesterday when XGF dropped the kids off my DH was just going up to the garage to put something away well, I got all tense because I knew she'd be here any minute and I wanted him inside when she got here, sadly he was walking down from the garage when she pulled in.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 6:40pm

Have you told you husband how you feel?

Mary "Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away"
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Registered: 07-07-2008
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 7:13pm

I feel for you...I definitely do, as there are moments when I can get insecure myself...however, there are cardinal rules that I live by with regard to the skids...they aren't mine...plain and simple...Believe me, lately, there have been instances especially with ODSS (18) where I can honestly say, I'm glad that is the case...For example, SO and have been discussing the end of alimony/CS modification that he will be filing for in Sept.

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Registered: 10-20-2008
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 7:17am

I completely agree I have a wicked problem with being insecure.

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Registered: 10-12-2007
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 9:30am

Serenity wrote the most empathetic and compassionate line and I was afraid it would get lost:

Just keep praying for her that she gets everything in her life you would want in your own.

Pamela


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 10:27am

I think there are some things here that have to be discussed w/ your DH--first of all, you could ask him not to give you the play by play on everything XGF is doing--why do you need to know where he saw her car, etc?

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