need advice about child issues....
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|Wed, 04-21-2004 - 3:29pm|
my child's father is stupid, i'll admit that he is really DUMB, the stuff he does, the way he talks, he'll do something so remarkably stupid that you are embarrassed to hear it, yet he tells you about it anyways (example: doing doughnuts in a pickup truck in the middle of a sod farm, for which the company i work for OWNS, yet he told me about it......................tearing up the transmission in his wife's father's truck numerous times and laughing about it..........getting fired, literally fired, for being stupid, either he doesnt know how to work or he just pretends that he doesnt so he wont have to.....walks into things all the time......the list goes on.......he is one dumb human being, i dont know why i dated him for two years...)
well, DH doesnt realize it, he does it out of joking.........but when DS does something,
that all normal three year olds do............:
puts his shorts on upside down (both legs in one shorts leg), puts his underwear on backwards, trips over something, ........
DH sometimes will say "just like his dad"..........."sure hope he doesnt turn out like his dad"........and i really dont like my child being compared to his father at only 3yrs old, i dont ever want him being compared to his father, nor do i want any predictions about him turning out like him....it just irks me.
and it doesnt help any that DS has this horrble laugh, i will admit that my child laughs like a nerd from the movie "Revenge of The Nerds"......but hey, he's 3yrs old he will grow out of it, as a matter of fact that is his play laugh, when you tickle him he has a totally different normal laugh, so i know the other isnt permanent or anything *lol*
and it gets to me, i havent said anything because i know he means no harm. and it would make him feel really bad if he knew that it hurt my feelings or made me have any ill feelings toward him.
i know for a fact that during these first years is when self esteem and personalities are developed, and i dont want DS to have any lack of self esteem whatsoever, and to me comments like this can be detrimental to a child's self esteem.
so what i need advice on, is how to bring this up to DH without making him think that he's been a bully or anything like that.........how should i let him know? how should i even bring it up? because i dont want to wait until the next time he says it, eventually DS will catch on, and that wont be so nice, especially if DS repeats it to his father.
i just want to let DH know, that even though he means no harm, that he is causing harm.