New here with questions...

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Registered: 01-26-2009
New here with questions...
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 7:30pm

I feel a bit like I'm following a well-worn path to this board.

Faith is not blind; it's visionary


Lee

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Registered: 10-04-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:31am

Hi and welcome to the board.

I'm not a parent, so take what you want out of it and throw the rest away. ;)

There are people who believe you shouldn't ever have sleepovers with kids present until you're engaged or married. There are others who do it willy nilly. Regardless of what your kids know or don't, I guess it just depends on what kind of role model you want to be for your kids. Do you want them seeing him sleepover in your bedroom and when they get older, assume this is okay "since mom did it"? would you rather them see him over, but sleeping on the couch? Or would you rather them not get any ideas (for when they become teens/young adults) and have sleepovers only when no children are present?

Unfortunately, we can't answer for you. Your values will dictate how the situation should go. And like I said before, here on this board, some do it one way, others another. It's what works for them and their values. And I hope they'll speak up about why they do what they do. That way, you can find what works for you.

 





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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:34pm

Welcome to the board!


For what it is worth, it is hard to have a schedule with teenagers.

Serenity
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Registered: 06-03-2008
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:02pm

I'm going to echo what the other posters have said.




Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:46pm

Brief hijack...


April, we miss you!

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:15pm

Thanks to everyone for responding.

Faith is not blind; it's visionary


Lee

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 3:01pm
I can only offer from the non-parent dating a parent point of view.

We were challenged with this on several occasions. A lot of it depends on your beliefs.

Here are the considerations we went through:

"Monkey See, Monkey Do" How you two act in your relationship WILL rub off on the kids.

- J. Darling

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