new marriage, new babies, heartbroken.
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|Tue, 01-04-2011 - 3:00pm|
Hello, I'm new here.
I"m a first time mom of 7 month old twins and my husband and I have been married for 10 months. This is my first marriege, his 2nd. He has 3 kids from a previous marriage and when we met, he was going through a messy divorce.
Before my husband and I got married/got pregnant, we were so in love, you couldn't peel us away from eachother. we dated for 2 1/2 years. My preganancy was amazing. We dreamed all day for these babies to come. I was independent, I have my own home, a great Job and he had a very large (empty) house and money was no issue.
Yes, we are so blessed, huge house, NO money problems, beutiful babies, loving families (we have NO reason to be having problems) exept, I feel like after I had the babies, my husband changed into someone I don't even recognize anymore. I'm heartbroken. I'm a working mom, (my mom watches our babies during the day at our house)- I get up at 6am, I'm home by 5:30. I race home to feed the babies, to kiss my husband, help his kids with homework and pretend like I'm not exausted, thirsty, hungry etc. My huband has withdrawn from me and our babies completely. He started drinking- he doesn't drink often at all or go out to drink but hes a lightweight and a usually "happy/goofy" drunk has turned mean and has said unreal things, that have shattered my spirit. he doesn't have to drink every day to say the 5 things he's said that have taken the light away from my eyes. He's insulted my mother and my parents who watch our kids and could quite possibly be the nicest, harmless people in the world (my mom does my husbands laungry, and knits his daugther sweaters, my dad hangs up fans for his sons, my parents are the kindest people in the world, humble and old) I'm heartbroken at his behavior twards them. I' think it annoys him that my parents are SO in love with our babies (they are the first grandkids and I'm their only daughter) He says they "smoother" them. Now he wants us to find a nanny, he doesn't want my parents there anymore becuase he feels "sufficated" he doesnt even say hi to our babies when my parents are there. This makes me so sad, I don't even know what to do. How do I tell my parents that my husband wants them to stop caring for our babies? He has turned on my family and says he "knows they dissaprove of him" - Mind you, he's the one who insulted me in front of my mother, then insulted my mother and now walks around and ignores them as much as he can. He made christmas a nighmare. He sat like a 2 year old at my parents house as they handed him gifts with his cell phone in his hand playing scrabble.. I was so upset for my parents (they just smiled away like they always do) . He even slighted our babies on their first christmas- He took HIS 3 kids to his parents house first, where they had christmas presents waiting for them- My babies (their flesh and blood too) did not come (he didn't ask us to go) they got NOT ONE GIFT from his parents, NOT ONE! I'm crying just thinking about it. Then his kids came home with