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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:12pm

Hello, I am new to this forum.


My name is Christine and I am VERY VERY happily married to Robbie. We live in So-Cal where I go to school for my BS and am a Software Analyst and Robbie is a career military type.


This is (technically) my second marriage (his first)

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Registered: 07-27-2010
In reply to: the_red_queen
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:09am
Interesting life story. Glad everything worked out in the postive. I am new here too. Maybe I should post my full story sometime. You are very brave to share so much. Thank you.
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In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:03pm

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In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:41pm

In terms of addiction and alcohol - my ex-husband is a heavy-drinker/alcoholic. It truly is a physical addiction for him (he shakes and gets very paranoid/anxiety when not drinking). I am no longer in contact with him - but there is a part of me that cares about him - that KNOWS he is a better man than this :-( It makes me sad to see the path he has chosen.

But for the grace of God, go I. I simply don't have the genetics to be a drinker, I get extremely ill and throw-up. I physically cannot handle drugs or alcohol.

I just look at my Ex and I wonder, why has he chosen this for his life? He is HAPPY drinking! And I wonder - why did he chose alcohol over me? He has no desire to get me back. He truly just wants to drink, and I told him - no more hard liquor in the house - so he LEFT ME and divorced me!

It was just a bad deal all around :-( And it makes me so sad - because ... I really felt he LOVED me - I met him in high school - so we are deeply, deeply bonded. He understood me when I had issues with my parents and their strictness - in a lot of ways he "rescued" me. And I married him because I loved him, but also to get out of the HOUSE! You know? We were married QUITE young, and I always felt like - against all odds ::: Him and Me :-) You know? So it's hard to let go of that dream - and the pedestal I set him on - to realize he was owned by his addiction and lack of discipline - and that he wasn't really the wonderful, honest man that I had believed him to be :-( (and not just because of his addiction, but because of truly dishonest behavior, betrayals and lies).

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Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:10pm

Hmmm....no, not really.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 04-30-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:14pm

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4 yrs. clean and able to drink responsibly and socially without using booze as a crutch or as self-medication!


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Rhi and he will be 10 soon!


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Very true and thank you! I am so glad I found "My knight in Dickies and Tattoos" LOL. Best chance I ever took!




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In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:09pm

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Registered: 10-04-2006
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 1:36pm

I gotta admit, that is a great story. I'm glad Robbie got you out of there and safe and I'm assuming clean now. What is your son's name?

I recall my first date with this hot guy. Wish it didn't start that way. I needed a ride to the hospital because my then BF beat me enough that I needed to go. I had no one to call. Well, I had one person but he would've probably committed murder so I didn't call him to keep him safe. I called this guy I met online. I know, strange. But he had always been a sweet guy. He took me to the hospital and took care of me that night.

Not all guys are good, not all of them online are great. But there are some out there with genuine hearts. I'm glad you were able to find one. ;)

 





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Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 9:55am

Hi and welcome!

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 04-30-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 6:00pm
Thank you for the warm welcome Serenity!!




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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: the_red_queen
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 5:16pm

Welcome Queen!

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