Newbie!

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Newbie!
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:12pm

Hello, I am new to this forum.


My name is Christine and I am VERY VERY happily married to Robbie. We live in So-Cal where I go to school for my BS and am a Software Analyst and Robbie is a career military type.


This is (technically) my second marriage (his first)

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Registered: 11-20-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:10pm

Hmmm....no, not really.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 08-07-2006
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:41pm

In terms of addiction and alcohol - my ex-husband is a heavy-drinker/alcoholic. It truly is a physical addiction for him (he shakes and gets very paranoid/anxiety when not drinking). I am no longer in contact with him - but there is a part of me that cares about him - that KNOWS he is a better man than this :-( It makes me sad to see the path he has chosen.

But for the grace of God, go I. I simply don't have the genetics to be a drinker, I get extremely ill and throw-up. I physically cannot handle drugs or alcohol.

I just look at my Ex and I wonder, why has he chosen this for his life? He is HAPPY drinking! And I wonder - why did he chose alcohol over me? He has no desire to get me back. He truly just wants to drink, and I told him - no more hard liquor in the house - so he LEFT ME and divorced me!

It was just a bad deal all around :-( And it makes me so sad - because ... I really felt he LOVED me - I met him in high school - so we are deeply, deeply bonded. He understood me when I had issues with my parents and their strictness - in a lot of ways he "rescued" me. And I married him because I loved him, but also to get out of the HOUSE! You know? We were married QUITE young, and I always felt like - against all odds ::: Him and Me :-) You know? So it's hard to let go of that dream - and the pedestal I set him on - to realize he was owned by his addiction and lack of discipline - and that he wasn't really the wonderful, honest man that I had believed him to be :-( (and not just because of his addiction, but because of truly dishonest behavior, betrayals and lies).

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Registered: 04-30-2008
In reply to: the_red_queen
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:03pm

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Registered: 07-27-2010
In reply to: the_red_queen
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:09am
Interesting life story. Glad everything worked out in the postive. I am new here too. Maybe I should post my full story sometime. You are very brave to share so much. Thank you.

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