No engagement ring, AGAIN!
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|Fri, 04-16-2004 - 12:49pm|
After a couple days, we tried to talk about it again, and he kept saying that he thought I would judge him on how much he spent on the ring, and that he didn't want to go through that. I explained to him that as long as there is no ring, I don't feel we are engaged. We are monogamus (we have been forever), but engaged to be married? No. He has now said he would be happy to get me a ring, but he wants me to pick it out, even though I have told him and shown him what I like. I don't feel like shopping for my own ring. I would happy with anything he picked. And now it feels like I have forced him into buying me something, he would rather spend the money on a vacation. Like he can't do both. So this now has gone on for over a month and everytime it comes up my stomach and chest hurt, and I don't want to get into any more.
So, I would like to know from everyone here, who actually was proposed to and recieved an engagement ring, did you shop for your own? Did he surprise you?
I am a little upset because he made a comment about my mom wanting to buy me a present, I knew what I wanted, and so she wanted to give me the money and go get it. His comment was "That's not giving you a present at all, that's offensive." Well, isn't he doing the same thing with the ring? He doesn't ask me what I would like, he doesn't say get pcitures or ideas off the internet...he has no clue. I gave him some websites, I told him I like white gold because I wear silver. He hasn't done a thing, but he is willing to write the check and that sounds so much like what he criticized my mom doing.