Not Going To Take It Anymore

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2007
Not Going To Take It Anymore
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 12:28pm

After 6 1/2 years I've finally decided that I am no longer going to keep my mouth shut when my in laws, my step children or my husband's ex make rude, inappropriate comments. For years and years I have bit my tongue and kept my mouth shut and suffered by stuffing my feelings down deep inside me. It is now to the point when I have become very ill from all the stress and worry. I just can't do it any more. It is not healthy to be a door mat. My health is so much more important than what these people think of me. There is a HUGE hypocrisy in that anyone can say what's on their mind and speak their mind but I am not allowed to. Well that's BS. I have always tried to take a high road but you know what? Peace at all costs, including my health is NOT the high road. The high road is to be assertive and respectful but to speak your mind and not be a doormat. I'm completely done. It's ok for everyone to act up why can't I have a voice? My hubby will chastize my kids without worrying he will be the jerk but I am not allowed to speak up to his kids in my own house? No! His ex is allowed to be a complete idiot and everyone just falls at her feet. This is totally unacceptable and if that means I don't get invited to family events, fine. It's not enjoyable anyways and I'm done turning the other cheek and kissing butt. Even to my step kids. They are old enough now and we don't see them that often that if they say or something inappropriate in my home I'm going to lay it on the line.

I am sure after I start speaking up my whole outlook with change and I will feel better. I've got to get these bad feelings out forever. My health depends on it. Look out, I'm gonna shake things up!!!

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 1:15pm

This is what I call being honest with yourself so you can be honest with others.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 04-24-2012 - 2:26pm

Go for it! You have put up with too much for too long - and when you need to vent, just come on here and vent away!