Not sure where to post this but

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2010
Not sure where to post this but
Sun, 12-26-2010 - 8:53pm

I am married, its my DH's second marriage (my first). Its not going well and we have a young child. I would leave, but I don't have the money to pay a lawyer right now. I have a small amount of money, that's it. I haven't worked since our child was born. I am looking for a job right now, but the field of work I've been in is low paying. My DH is verbally abusive and creates a hellish environment for me at home. He has horrible mood swings as well, and there are other issues. His family members are cruel to me, whenever I am around them. He was married before me, for a short time, but has never wanted to talk much about what happened.

Has anyone had to split up, how was it affordable? How can I afford to leave him? Would I be able to get custody of my child? Stay in the house, or would I have to move out? I know nothing about any of this. Ideally, I'd like to keep my child and go back to school for a better career in teaching or nursing. I don't think I would ever wish to remarry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:40am
Hi and WELCOME --

There is alot to discuss here----but a short answer suggestion would be to make a call to a woman's domestic violence hotline or shelter---I'm sure they can set you up with someone who can work with you at giving ideas suggestions re: agencies, services,opportunities and such in your area----as even if you're not in physically violent situation---->what you're asking about sounds like similar options those they deal with are looking at. Plus, verbally abusive can be just as damaging, and important to protect yourself and child from.

Keep us posted, and check back here.

(More people post during work days/week---some are out of town/on vacation this week---you'll get more replies yet)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 9:55am

You should look to see if there is a free legal services organization in your area.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 12:30pm
You can also check out the Surviving Divorce and Separation Board.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2010
Mon, 01-03-2011 - 11:55pm

where is that board?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007
Tue, 01-04-2011 - 11:53am


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