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|Sat, 09-04-2010 - 12:37pm|
Yes, I put my husband before my kids. I discuss everything with him. I make sure he knows he is the most important person in my life. He is my best friend. My children did know him before we married, they knew and liked him for years. Was I lucky? Or, did I make a reasonable choice? I have been with DH for 12 years, through the boys growing up and all their individual issues.
So far, marriage two is working out well for all of us.
For some reason, it is being made sound like I do not love my children, that I do not care about them. I certainly do. I have spent the last 12 years, teaching them how to love well. How to care for their partners and relationships, with respect and compassion. I do it by showing that to my husband, by example, and in turn by treating them the same way.
If you want me to stop explaining my POV, I will. I respect the women on here who say their children come first. I just don't understand, why they don't understand that it can under mind the relationship, especially in a second marriage. I don't agree that husbands should just assume it either. Same with the dads that cater to the kids, at the expense of the new GF or DW.
ALL of this should be discussed openly and honestly before hand, IMHO.
The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.