Please, I need some advice!
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|Sat, 04-19-2003 - 12:00pm|
I have been involved with my SO for almost one year and everything is going great except that his EX is an immature, manipulative lunatic. This normally wouldn't be a problem for me but they have a child together and she refuses to let him see their DD unless she needs a babysitter or she is present. She will not let SO take DD to dinner, to the park. to his home, etc. An example...the only way she would let SO see his DD for Easter with his family is that she went to their dinner too. As of yet there is no custody agreement but we are working on one. The EX says that even when an agreeement is arranged she will refuse to follow court orders and will never let SO see his DD!! I know that will never fly but it is stressful none-the-less. SO pays an ungodly amount of child support and is an excellent father-she has nothing to fear by letting him see DD-she's just NUTS! To top it all off, SO's own mother still invites the EX to family gatherings, even when I have been invited to go. Thank God I haven't been able to attend anything while the EX was there, imagine how uncomfortable that would be... I know my SO should be responsible for talking to his mother about the situation but we all KNOW that if the EX doesn't go, DD won't be able to go either so I'm hoping that his mom simply has her heart in the right place... We're between a rock and a hard place and I definitely don't want my SO to feel as though he has to choose between me and his DD but it does hurt.
I understand that I don't really have a say in their business yet but it does affect our relationship and will even more after we marry. How is one to handle a situation like this?? Thank you!