Put in the middle & always trying to keep peace.
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|Mon, 11-26-2012 - 1:47pm|
I am having an 'issue' with my marriage...not too serious, but it's getting aggravating to me!
1st, love hubby so much & (of course) love DD so much!! I just wish we could all three be peaceful together!!
Hubby has no kids and he's 45 (we were 'trying' to have a kid, but I suffered 3 miscarriages, in last year....so I am giving up. ) Hubby & DD get along 'most' the time. They have never had a fight with each other. And I am the one, who disciplines, so there's no resentment from DD to hubby, feeling she already has a father. Problem is hubby would like to be closer to DD, since he has no kids, but DD is 13 and is her own person, not a 'touchy feely' persone either. Hubby has tried soooooo hard to win her affection, by going out of his way, all the time to have some 'sort' of relationship with her. But, DD is a teen & just has no interest! I tell DH that she is a teen and don't try so hard with her and don't expect much, she likes/loves him, in her own way, so back off a bit. He will listen, for a day, then back to trying too hard again!
It's getting to the point where he is starting to resent her.....Thanksgiving night, he was playfully going to grab her (not hard, really playful, tha's all), she jumped back in horror and squealed a bit, (of course) that hurt his feelings! Then he proceeded to walk away like a baby, saying "wow! I was only playing!" and sulked the rest of the night! Then him, being a HUGE baby like that makes DD not think very highly of him. So, the next night DH is still angry and get's into it with ME about what happened!! Then, DD will talk to me, "wow....'B' just complains and get's angry over nothing!"
And it's a circle, where it will be peaceful (they acknowledge each other & will talk), but 'something' will happen and I am stuck in the middle, trying to keep peace......but they do NOT want to talk to each other about it.